We have a guest! Sandra Tsing Loh, author of “The Madwoman in the Volvo – My Year of Raging Hormones,” (Affiliate link) among other books, has agreed to come to the home studio and chat with us – and we couldn’t be more thrilled! We are big fans of hers! All of her books, her radio shows – The Loh Down on Science, the Loh Life – we love her work!
We discuss the book. Julia could totally relate to what she was going through. We wanted to know about her decision to write a book about ehr experience with Menopause – since we decided to make a podcast about OUR experience with menopause. She said she felt many people offered advice for menopausal women experiencing bloating and hot flashes and rage to “simply cut out all alcohol, sugar and caffeine.” Like what??? Such terrible advice, since that’s what we NEED right then! She references a quote by Erma Bombeck “I’m trying very hard to understand this generation. They have adjusted the timetable for childbearing so that menopause and teaching a 16-year-old how to drive a car will occur in the same week.” (That’s so you can’t distinguish between a hot flash and an anxiety attack.)
She talks about how the weight you may need to lose is the 180 pounds called your husband! It can blow up your marriage, which did happen to her.
“The advice for women is always the same: yoga, kale, hydrate, cut out alcohol + sugar + caffeine.” She also talks about the Eastern notion of Kundalini energy rising through our chakras beginning at age 40 – and if any of the energy is blocked at any point, you’re going to have problems at that region. She felt a sense of needing to break free and break some rules. Because there are so many rules for women we “should” be following and it gets overwhelming! She reminds us that menopause isn’t the change, it’s the return to our old selves. She talks about how it opened up for her, and mentions that 46 is the peak time – peak perimenopause and things can really get shaken up. Julia talks about how she had a 1.5 year-old at 46 and that’s when she knew she needed to get some HRT help. We then discuss the whole notion of what comes NEXT? For women is menopause in general and us in particular. And our lack of appropriate role models for menopausal women. We also discuss the nature of marriage and for some people divorce is a perfectly fine option. And her notion that 50s are the fun decade! But also – stop saying “Sorry”! By the way, Sandra has a new book coming out in 2020 – that is a bit of a sequel to the Madwoman in the Volvo. And – Sandra has not had a Hot Flash.